If everybody in your circle agrees with you, it means you’re living in an echo chamber. But echo chambers are a myth, new study finds, which means that you’re likely to bump into many people that disagree with you, whether you’re catatonically browsing your Twitter feed (did you notice the new typeface? People hate it, what a surprise!) or just trying to survive this week’s twenty-sixth remote meeting.

You may look great in bunker gear, but as long as you see conflict as a fire you put out rather than an opportunity to strengthening relationships, sooner or later, you’ll have nothing but ashes to deal with.